The practice (and business) of law is generally stressful; occasional confusion, anxiety, worry, or self-doubt comes with the territory. When it becomes chronic, however, we suffer. Try these tips to eliminate anxiety at work and at home for a stress-free practice.
By James Gray Robinson, Family Lawyer and Consultant
The practice (and business) of law is generally stressful. We have to find paying clients, impress them and then charge a reasonable fee. We have to deal with partners, colleagues, adversaries, and judges. We are constantly trying to balance work, family and personal time. When we are “up to our asses in alligators,” we forget that our initial objective was to “drain the swamp.”
There are many articles and books about how to deal with stress and anxiety. Most are helpful, but they don’t necessarily give you effective tips on how to reduce or eliminate stress. I have compiled a list of twelve (12) things you can do (individually or collectively) to eliminate stress. They are listed below in no particular order.
Stress-Free Practice: 12 Tips to Help You Get There
1. Write Things Down
Many times, we obsess on details because we are afraid we are going to forget something. When we write things down, make lists, or journal, we give our minds a break and we can relax because we don’t have to remember everything. We can simply refer to our notes.
Meditate – or at least don’t think about your problems for 30 seconds several times a day.
A friend of mine once told me that it is hard to think about your problems when you are gasping for breath. Exercise also has the added benefit of producing beneficial hormones in your brain like endorphins, melatonin, and serotonin.
4. Avoid Caffeine, Alcohol, and Nicotine
Let’s face it, lawyers have one of the highest addiction statistics of any profession. The problem is not only the effect of addiction, but these three substances really do a number on how we feel. Try giving up these substances for thirty days and see, if you can.
5. Chew Bubble Gum
No, really. Studies show that the effect of rhythmic chewing on our brains and psyche is beneficial. Plus, there is something really satisfying about blowing a big bubble and getting it all back in our mouth. Being childlike for a few moments will help alleviate your stress.
6. Go Outside
We are physical beings who thrive in nature. When we shut ourselves into our asphalt and concrete cages we lose touch with nature, producing what I call the “fish out of water” effect. Go to a park, get on a bicycle, take a jog or a hike once in a while.
Lawyers don’t look happy. We don’t look like we are having fun. We tend to be so damned serious. Smile once in a while. Smiling helps lift our spirits and when we use underutilized muscles we have to concentrate on something other than our problems. There is an old saying, “fake it to you make it”. Even if you don’t feel like smiling, do it anyway until you do feel like it.
8. Sniff Lavender
There are many scents that calm our nerves and our souls. I am partial to lavender. Any of the mint family, potpourri, roses, cinnamon, and other aromas can go a long way to getting your brain to calm down.
9. Listen to Music
We get so focused on our careers, our problems, our challenges that we often forget the benefits of listening to music, primarily because it is hard to focus on the negatives when we are listening to beautiful music. Whether you are listening to mood music, massage music, or classical music, put on those earbuds and chill.
I am a big proponent of proper breathing. We do not breathe deeply enough to get oxygen to our brains. When we feel threatened we tend to hold our breath or take shallow breaths, and this produces panic. When we breathe deeply and regularly, we can stay rational and calm.
11. Be Your Own Cheerleader
When everyone else is beating you up, why do it to yourself? We all need to love ourselves and to think kindly about what we are doing. Be your biggest cheerleader and remember that you are worthy, loving and kind.
12. Focus On Your Accomplishments
No one is going to win every case, do everything without error, be omniscient or know how to handle everything all the time. Our minds can only think one thought at a time, so we need to focus on our accomplishments from time to time. It is not easy to become a licensed attorney. Let that soak in from time to time. Remember, you asked for this.
A Stress-Free Practice Is Possible
Occasional confusion, anxiety, worry or self-doubt comes with the territory. When it becomes chronic we suffer. Try these tips to relax and enjoy your life.
James Gray Robinson, Esq. was a third-generation trial attorney, specializing in family law, for 27 years in his native North Carolina up until 2004. Since then he has become an individual and business consultant who works with a wide range of people, professional organizations, and leading corporations. At the age of 64, Gray passed the Oregon bar exam and is again a licensed attorney. www.JamesGrayRobinson.com
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